it's been quite some time since I replied, well (background sounds of cracking fingers) here I go:
- A little reply to old japo spoiler:
Maybe you mean like a human tendency?.
I have a friend that she usually had lots of worries and problems and for coping with it she usually talked about it with a friend of us and me, it was a heavy luggage, as she trusted us she was really open about how she felt and everything on her life and she had really little confidence in herself, so she usually was awaiting some advice on our side (of course I didn't spoke with the friend about her issues, not so often, I would not talk about it with anyone since that was confided to me and no one else), she was really dependent, in those regards with the people with which she valued their opinion like me that I was an aspirant to psychologist and because she said I made good analysis and advice, well, since I cared, I would do my best about that, not saying some crazy stuff without giving it a good thinking. In the end she too felt horrible because that was a heavy emotional draining of my energy and of the other people she was confident with, and she asked to be of help too, after some time as after that continuous draining, I gave in, and told her eventually lots of my worries and problems too, it was a good trade off, I of course didn't had much problems in mind as her, and I just was as open about things as I was comfortable (it raised my confidence with her), I really don't approve that kind of relation since she was really dependent and didn't valued her capabilities and was afraid of the consequences of her own decisions, she always wanted to make the best one or the best try but she felt she couldn't do it by herself without help, I tried to lift up her self esteem, but one person alone can't do anything with some really ingrained ways of thought, and even less when that person even unconsciously doesn't want to change as she didn't had to, she is better now (I hope). But in the end, when some problems, strong emotional problems appeared for me at least I had her for listening and comforting me, it was for a little time, but I really needed that someone without judging me that could comprehend me in some way and I have very little people with which I would open like that (I cried like a little kid -something I raaarely do-, I would like to believe that it was of great help to have someone to open up to, for me it was a new experience, it felt good), maybe she is the only one on that level. Since I entered psychology I have had very little time for anything else than study and I have left behind some of the old friendships I had in sociology, I barely spoke with her from time to time, and she doesn't contact you directly and it's hard to contact her, so that makes it harder. let me say, I only regard her as a big sis (she was older than me), and she regarded me as a little brother (what way to lean on the little bro, it should be the other way around XD), I never looked at her romantically nor physically, I was on the look for other women and she had her suitors. After all this time in fact, she is going to marry, it's great and the guy is a friend of mine too, but as I have cut ties with that people I don't know if I will fit again in the photo XD, this was a too long story.
Jumping to your 2 last paragraphs, yes society today expect that usually, but I have found like me lots of people that would like to bask in the sun and wind and be still, like making "photosynthesis" -as we call it XD- for a while, not needing too much talk, and I indeed with much people and tired of the day I would happily do so, since my mind was in blank after too much interaction, really mentally tiring. At least you have a friend with whom you can relate to XP, maybe it can be a little uneasy to not be sure how the other person regards you, but well one just can enjoy what there is. And about social norms, it just suffice to know them so you can do things about it, know how people would react, making use of them, to know what to do knowing what the reactions and expectations they could give, just to make a calculated way through them and for breaking them too XD (but remembering that not all the people would react the same).
still watching rarely any anime, I have watched baccano! and now I have to watch the last 2 special episodes.
The conscious mind doesn't work that fast nor is that powerful (depends on the person), what some theorist and I believe is that the unconscious mind (all that background processes and brain potential) is what is really powerful, and it's what gives you all those flash backs and if you have the automatic input command for connecting those Ideas it will be matching them, the new and old experiences, netting what you want to net and the things in which you find a relation. For me the unconscious mind is that fast, remember that you are actually perceiving lots of constant sensations of your reality on all senses as you act and think, and even you can react really fast when you perceive something rare, movement or a possible threat, it can do even some calculations, if you look some simple mathematical problems it as already solved them (if you are practitioner of that kind of thinking), I for example could do in my change exam, really fast solutions without consciously thinking with voice and all tho lots of mathematical problems, and if I had selected the wrong answer I would know (only one time I missed it and corrected it), I know that I had the best and faster answers that day, since the average around me couldn't make near the half, and I had nearly finished even after helping someone picking up something that fell.
It's the same as when reading something, if you are accustomed to it, the unconscious already has all your knowledge and skills, it will grasp the meaning easily, in the way you are accustomed to see things and already will connect it with another similar information or meanings, for making a deeper analysis and trying to think in another perspective then for that you would need your conscious mind, slower, and with lesser reserve of energy and attention, of course with the unconscious always supporting in the background, that is what I believe, and it again can be proved when you simply read something on a well known language for you, you don't have to think or raise your mind voice to know what it says, just run your sight through the letters and inside you you know what those letters meant, your feel it (subliminal messages are a proof too).
Yep, I would be the latter, but if I'm tired or exhausted I would probably fall into jumping into the problem headfirst, most of us do that if they are forced to in situations like that, but if you have the time it would be safer to rest and then have the energy to analyze things XD.
Yes it's mostly like that, the victorious write the history, and defines who is a hero and whom is the villain. Even as for today I haven't read your example XD. Something important I would say is that the biggest and solid changes are the slower ones, since in that process the very structure of the societies are moved and changed, but let me say, something of debate today is that the world is changing really fast, with all the communication there is, all the production and publication of knowledge and information, and interconnection of the societies, everyone is influencing one another in some way, at least by little (of course the ones in power and with dominant Ideas and culture, are the ones that influence the most).
Hum the dependence issue, sorry for meddling, but as a partial social scientist I have to say that one is dependent on all your context on all the system, for example on our society that needs the internet and makes of it a business, then the company that provides you of it for a price and it gets to your computer, for our homes and services that go along with it, we depend on the company or the government, for the people that cleans the streets, for our food, we depend on the farmers (and they depend on the government or whatever provides them of stuff), then on the distributors, then on the markets, we depend on the people that pay us for giving our life time producing money or anything, we depend on other humans for satisfying our need for social and emotional connection and comfort, most of us are consumers, not hunters, not inventors, we depend on something other people made. And if we bring the man in the jungle case that has happened a lot, yes you can survive to all the odds being alone and using your brains, but a kid still needs his parents for growing the minimal physical and mental abilities to survive, you depend on them since in the womb for protection, and if the kid at a young age stays alone in the jungle and he/she survives, as we are a social animal, it would be hard for it to adapt into society, not impossible, but it would be hard and make him uneasy for a long time. All that we know, lots of what we are comes thanks to society, language, the possibility to develop certain abilities, our conduct and ways of thinking, our beliefs, it influence all of this and more and I don't forget the individual, but lets say it's like one is a kid which is given a limited set lego pieces and is taught rules on how to build, not forgetting and knowing that there are biological and genetic factors that makes the kid a human individual different from others (yet human) and lets not forget that those characteristics are thanks to the legacy of our ancestors =P.
So in resume we depend on a system or systems (socials, I would say even natural -like our biology and nature itself- for considering all the contexts) and its processes and workings that we take for granted (if an electromagnetic pulse huge enough to take on the satellites and our world happens we would be doomed!, no technology XD, at least no resistant one to that).